Have you heard of the term "mom guilt"? Or have you experienced feeling guilty for enjoying your time while your baby is back at home, being babysit? This is what's called mom guilt. But it can happen to any parent, though it is more common with mothers. Guilt is a human trait that is experienced by everyone at some point. As a part of human nature, we always reflect on things we think we can do better. That is what we feel the guilt.
When it comes to parenting, it is felt when a parent is unable to do certain things with their child that he or she feels guilty. Whereas, in many cases, these things are nothing to feel guilty about.
But is there a way you can deal with this guilt which is eating you alive that too for no reasons?
Parenting is not easy, it has its own ups and down and on some days it can feel like nothing good is coming out of it. But the way to go forward is to not be too fixed in a particular moment in time.
If your child is having a lot of screen time or not eating as many healthy foods as you would like. It does not mean that it will last forever. Learn to pick your battles. Focus on what you can do in the moment rather than stressing over long-term consequences.
Wanting to be the best parent possible is natural, but putting too much pressure on yourself can lead to guilt and stress. Life happens—some days, you might not have time for the park or be too exhausted for a bedtime story, and that’s okay. There’s no single "right" way to parent; what matters is what works best for your family. Trust yourself, and don’t get caught up in doing everything by the book.
It’s great to seek parenting advice, but too much information can make you second-guess yourself. Constantly comparing different parenting methods may leave you feeling like you're not doing enough. Instead of looking outward for every answer, remember that you already have the instincts and qualities needed to raise your child. Take in advice that resonates with you, but don’t let it overshadow your own judgment.
Feelings of parenting guilt are common, and talking to others can be a huge relief. Connecting with fellow parents—whether through friends, family, or online communities—can help you see that you're not alone. Hearing shared experiences reminds you that struggles and challenges are part of the journey, and no one has it all figured out. Supportive conversations can make a world of difference in easing self-doubt.
Parenting is overwhelming, so it is important that you take time out for yourself and do things that you enjoy. If you are someone who enjoys reading, go to a library without your kids around. If you are a traveller, leave your kids with someone you trust who can look after your kids and you can do the same for them when they need their time off parenting.
What leads to the most stress is when you compare yourself to other parents. The best thing to avoid the guilt is when you stop looking at other parents and what they did for their child. You must understand that they have different scenarios and whatever they did is because their realities are different than yours.
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