Riya Baibhawi

Why 'Setting Boundaries' Should Be Your TOP New Year Resolution! 10 Ways To Protect Your Space

Setting Boundaries

New year, new me! I said this to myself as the year 2025 started. But soon found myself hanging out with the same people I didn't agree with and drinking the same hot chocolate I hated. I realized that New Year's resolutions were not enough, I needed something more.

It was then I read the book How Neurobiology Can Help You Rewire Your Brain to Feel Safe, Connected, and Empowered by Juliane Taylor Shore, a therapist in Austin, Texas. I realised that stringent boundaries were pivotal to both personal and professional growth. Physical boundaries, for instance, protect your personal space while emotional boundaries protect your mental health.

But boundaries should not be confused with a request. For example, if you have a family member with a different political view, and you ask them to bring a certain candidate up that's a direct request. Whereas a boundary is saying, "I’m not comfortable with this conversation continuing. I'm no longer going to speak to you about this.’” Boundaries aren’t about controlling other people, she adds—they’re about taking action to protect your mental health. Terri Cole, a New York-based therapist and author of Boundary Boss emphasized that boundaries should be considered as "your own personal rules of engagement for how others will interact with you. If you don't set any boundaries, you are likely to become stressed and burned out. As resentment simmers, your relationships might become strained.

<h2>Here Are Few Tips You Can Use To Set Boundaries</h2>

Push Back Against Work Overload

For Shore, a working mom, the challenge isn’t her passion for work but the creeping demands that keep her from family time. She’s learned to pause before saying “yes” to new tasks, asking herself what she would have to sacrifice by taking on more. "The truth is, I can’t say yes to everything. If I do, I’ll have no time for what matters most,” she shared in her book. Shore’s deliberate approach helps her restore balance while setting an example for her young daughter. Her advice? Build in a buffer to consider your commitments, and don’t let people-pleasing derail your well-being.

Reserve Sacred Tech-Free Time

What would it feel like to start your day without diving into your devices? Going off tech for a few hours does wonders for your health. A new rule? No internet before 11 a.m. Instead, fill your mornings with activities that bring you joy, like walking your dog, meditating, or simply savoring coffee with your family.

Health experts warn that doomscrolling has become a mental health drain in modern day. "Refreshing the headlines all day left me stressed and emotionally unavailable to my clients. His solution? Treating the news like it’s 1980—checking headlines just once or twice a day or opting for a weekly news digest. If you’ve felt the same pressure to stay constantly informed, a more measured approach could help you feel focused and optimistic.

Banish Tech From Bedroom

Are you tethered to your phone overnight? What if you start going to bed without your phone? Well, it might result in better sleep and a refreshed morning outlook. Emergencies are rare, as per health experts. You can let loved ones know in advance about your new habit. A good night’s sleep might just be the best gift you give yourself this year.

Expect Equal Effort in Relationships

Clinical psychologist Heather Stevenson used to carry conversations, filling in silences and drawing others out, often at the expense of sharing her own thoughts. It left her feeling drained and unfulfilled. Now, she is prioritizing balance in her relationships. "I want them to be mutual," she told a media organization. If you find yourself in one-sided dynamics, try stepping back and letting the other person share the load. True connections thrive on reciprocity.

Virtual interactions have become a way of life, but for therapist Kathleen Smith, they began to feel stifling. She's now prioritizing in-person connections, declining unnecessary Zoom meetings and seeking out community events instead. "All those little side conversations when you’re face-to-face? They’re so good for mental health."

Do you apologize for things that aren’t your fault? Therapists want you to reconsider this habit as constant apologizing disempowers us. Instead, practice gratitude. Swap “Sorry for bothering you” with “Thank you for your time.” This subtle shift can transform how you’re perceived—and how you feel about yourself.

Say "Yes" With Intention

Mental Health experts emphasize the power of saying no. "Saying yes out of obligation goes against my values of connection and authenticity,” she explains. By tuning into your real desires, you can reserve your energy for what truly matters.

Protect Yourself from Energy Vampires

Do certain people leave you feeling drained? Therapist Sarah Rafik Botrus has learned to limit her exposure to these “energy vampires.” Whether it’s a quick phone call or a brief visit, she sets clear boundaries to preserve her mental health. Over time, these relationships often become less draining—or fade away entirely.

In an era of oversharing, many are scaling back their social media presence. “Not everything needs an audience. By savoring moments privately, people might feel more meaningful. If you’re ready to follow suit, start small: Try a social media detox for a week or limit your posts to a couple of days.

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New year, new me! I said this to myself as the year 2025 started. But soon found myself hanging out with the same people I didn't agree with and drinking the same hot chocolate I hated. I realized that New Year's resolutions were not enough, I needed something more.It was then I read the book How Neurobiology Can Help You Rewire Your Brain to Feel Safe, Connected, and Empowered by Juliane Taylor Shore, a therapist in Austin, Texas. I realised that stringent boundaries were pivotal to both personal and professional growth. Physical boundaries, for instance, protect your personal space while emotional boundaries protect your mental health.But boundaries should not be confused with a request. For example, if you have a family member with a different political view, and you ask them to bring a certain candidate up that's a direct request. Whereas a boundary is saying, "I’m not comfortable with this conversation continuing. I'm no longer going to speak to you about this.’” Boundaries aren’t about controlling other people, she adds—they’re about taking action to protect your mental health. Terri Cole, a New York-based therapist and author of Boundary Boss emphasized that boundaries should be considered as "your own personal rules of engagement for how others will interact with you. If you don't set any boundaries, you are likely to become stressed and burned out. As resentment simmers, your relationships might become strained.Here Are Few Tips You Can Use To Set BoundariesPush Back Against Work OverloadFor Shore, a working mom, the challenge isn’t her passion for work but the creeping demands that keep her from family time. She’s learned to pause before saying “yes” to new tasks, asking herself what she would have to sacrifice by taking on more. "The truth is, I can’t say yes to everything. If I do, I’ll have no time for what matters most,” she shared in her book. Shore’s deliberate approach helps her restore balance while setting an example for her young daughter. Her advice? Build in a buffer to consider your commitments, and don’t let people-pleasing derail your well-being.Reserve Sacred Tech-Free TimeWhat would it feel like to start your day without diving into your devices? Going off tech for a few hours does wonders for your health. A new rule? No internet before 11 a.m. Instead, fill your mornings with activities that bring you joy, like walking your dog, meditating, or simply savoring coffee with your family.Treat News Like A SnackHealth experts warn that doomscrolling has become a mental health drain in modern day. "Refreshing the headlines all day left me stressed and emotionally unavailable to my clients. His solution? Treating the news like it’s 1980—checking headlines just once or twice a day or opting for a weekly news digest. If you’ve felt the same pressure to stay constantly informed, a more measured approach could help you feel focused and optimistic.Banish Tech From BedroomAre you tethered to your phone overnight? What if you start going to bed without your phone? Well, it might result in better sleep and a refreshed morning outlook. Emergencies are rare, as per health experts. You can let loved ones know in advance about your new habit. A good night’s sleep might just be the best gift you give yourself this year.Expect Equal Effort in RelationshipsClinical psychologist Heather Stevenson used to carry conversations, filling in silences and drawing others out, often at the expense of sharing her own thoughts. It left her feeling drained and unfulfilled. Now, she is prioritizing balance in her relationships. "I want them to be mutual," she told a media organization. If you find yourself in one-sided dynamics, try stepping back and letting the other person share the load. True connections thrive on reciprocity.Reconnect Face-to-FaceVirtual interactions have become a way of life, but for therapist Kathleen Smith, they began to feel stifling. She's now prioritizing in-person connections, declining unnecessary Zoom meetings and seeking out community events instead. "All those little side conversations when you’re face-to-face? They’re so good for mental health."Stop OverapologizingDo you apologize for things that aren’t your fault? Therapists want you to reconsider this habit as constant apologizing disempowers us. Instead, practice gratitude. Swap “Sorry for bothering you” with “Thank you for your time.” This subtle shift can transform how you’re perceived—and how you feel about yourself.Say "Yes" With IntentionMental Health experts emphasize the power of saying no. "Saying yes out of obligation goes against my values of connection and authenticity,” she explains. By tuning into your real desires, you can reserve your energy for what truly matters.Protect Yourself from Energy VampiresDo certain people leave you feeling drained? Therapist Sarah Rafik Botrus has learned to limit her exposure to these “energy vampires.” Whether it’s a quick phone call or a brief visit, she sets clear boundaries to preserve her mental health. Over time, these relationships often become less draining—or fade away entirely.Reclaim Your PrivacyIn an era of oversharing, many are scaling back their social media presence. “Not everything needs an audience. By savoring moments privately, people might feel more meaningful. If you’re ready to follow suit, start small: Try a social media detox for a week or limit your posts to a couple of days.