Some days my brain is like a storm, thoughts moving faster than I can keep up. A small mistake becomes an catastrophe, an offhand remark becomes a soul-deep fear. I turn around and around, analyzing each word, every move, every potentiality. But then, I discovered recently this easy 20-second hack which was actually pretty straightforward but made a tremendous difference in the negative thinking. Quickly [sitting my hand on my heart and reminding myself, I am enough. Even just that small hesitation interrupts the madness. My breath slows, my shoulders ease, and for a moment, the hurricane calms. This practice over time has become my anchor, reminding me that I am not thoughts—I am so much more.

Researchers at the University of California, Berkeley, have discovered that it doesn't need to take long to practice self-compassion to be beneficial. The study, published in the Behaviour Research and Therapy journal, revealed that performing a 20-second self-compassion touch, such as putting a hand on your heart or belly, can greatly reduce levels of stress and anxiety.

According to psychology researcher Eli Susman, who co-authored the study, a group of 135 college students was asked to dedicate just 20 seconds a day to affirm themselves with kind and positive thoughts while engaging in a self-compassionate touch. The results were striking: those who consistently practiced this simple technique over a month experienced notable improvements in mood, self-compassion, and emotional resilience, while stress hormone levels decreased.

Why 20 Seconds of Self-Compassion Works

1. Decrease in Cortisol Levels

The stress hormone cortisol is the cause of much of the physical and emotional damage chronic stress inflicts on the body. The researchers discovered that a mere 20 seconds of self-compassionate touch resulted in a measurable drop in cortisol, allowing people to recover from stress more rapidly.

2. Better Emotional Well-Being

By practicing positive self-affirmation and empathetic touch, study participants reported greater emotional equanimity and reduced reactivity to stressful challenges.

3. A Simple, Accessible Practice

Unlike many conventional mindfulness practices that might demand lengthy meditation sessions, this micropractice requires only 20 seconds, rendering it simple to fit into daily activities, be it at home, the workplace, or even during public transport rides.

How to Practice Self-Compassionate Touch

This exercise is very easy and can be done anywhere. Here's how you can adapt it to your daily life:

Step 1: Recognize Your Emotions

Close your eyes and reflect on a recent experience that made you feel stressed, unworthy, or critical of yourself. Notice the sensations in your body as you reflect on this episode.

Step 2: Practice a Soothing Touch

Put one hand on your heart and the other on your belly. If this doesn't feel comfortable to you, you can experiment with other ways of self-compassionate touching, including:

Stroking the back of your neck

Rubbing a place on your palm with your thumb

Hugging yourself lightly by holding your arms in across your chest

Step 3: Breathe Deeply and Give Yourself Kindness

Take a slow, deep breath in. Feel the warmth and gentle pressure of your hands. As you exhale, focus on releasing tension. Now, in your mind, repeat self-compassionate affirmations such as:

“I am kind to myself.”

“I am not my mistakes.”

“I give myself room and comfort.”

“I celebrate my uniqueness.”

“I take this time to appreciate who I am.”

Step 4: Finish with a Sense of Gratitude

Open your eyes after 20 seconds and simply take a moment to admire yourself for taking the time to do this practice. You can repeat it as many times as you need throughout the day.

Susman calls this approach a "micropractice"—a tiny but effective habit that enhances mental health without taking up much time. These practices are based on classic mindfulness and meditation practices but are tailored to fit today's busy lives.

While the research was conducted with college students, the findings have applications for individuals of all ages. Whether you are a working professional with a packed schedule, a parent with numerous responsibilities, or an individual dealing with anxiety, adding a 20-second self-compassion exercise to your daily routine can be a convenient and effective method for managing stress and developing resilience.

Making It a Daily Habit

The secret to reaping the rewards of self-compassionate touch is consistency. Below are some ways to incorporate it into your daily life:

Begin your day by practicing self-compassion in bed before rising.

Utilize it as a fast tool during stressful situations at work or school.

Unwind by doing this micropractice before bedtime to relax.

May merely 20 seconds a day cause you to desist from spinning? The short answer, per the most up-to-date science, is that yes, it can. Micropractices for self-compassion provide a straightforward, research-supported means for lessening distress, enhancing emotional resilience, and cultivating a friendlier relationship with oneself.

In a world where stress and worry are escalating, this simple practice is a good reminder that simple, purposeful acts of care for ourselves have the ability to create tremendous transformations in our mindset. Why not give it a try for one month, you might find a surprising transformation.

A staggering 80 percent of women worldwide silently bear the burden of autoimmune diseases, which often manifest as joint pain, hair loss, brain fog, and unexplained weight changes.

These conditions, which often begin with mild symptoms, over time, worsen and develop into chronic illnesses such as Multiple Sclerosis, Lupus, and Rheumatoid Arthritis.

The conditions are challenging to diagnose as symptoms often fluctuate, overlap with other conditions like thyroid disorders or viral infections, and are sometimes affected by gender bias in medicine.

The delayed diagnosis significantly impacts women’s careers and personal lives.

“Approximately 80 percent of patients with autoimmune disorders are women, yet awareness remains low. Diseases such as rheumatoid arthritis, systemic lupus erythematosus, and autoimmune thyroid disease often begin during the most productive years of women’s lives, affecting careers, fertility, heart health, mental health, and overall quality of life,” said Dr. Uma Kumar, Head of Rheumatology at AIIMS, New Delhi, in an interview with HealthandMe.

“Correct diagnosis of autoimmune diseases is frequently delayed, leading to preventable organ damage and disability,” she added.

Autoimmune Diseases Often Speak Softly

There are more than 100 different types of autoimmune diseases. All occur when the immune system mistakenly attacks the body’s own healthy tissues, leading to chronic inflammation and damage to organs, joints, glands, or the nervous system.

Speaking to HealthandMe, Dr. Neeraj Jain, Vice Chairman, Department of Rheumatology at Sir Ganga Ram Hospital, said: “As a rheumatologist, I frequently see women living with persistent symptoms that remain unexplained for years before an autoimmune disease is diagnosed".

Dr. Jain explained that common symptoms include:

• Persistent fatigue
• Joint pain
• Hair loss
• Brain fog
• Unexplained weight changes
• Recurrent inflammation

“Because these symptoms can overlap with stress, hormonal changes, or lifestyle factors, diagnosis is frequently delayed,” Dr. Jain said.

Singer and actress Selena Gomez shared her experience with lupus in 2017.

“I would get fevers, headaches, and fatigue, but I always just kept going. I kind of ignored it, to be honest. … I don’t think I made the right decisions because I didn’t accept it. That’s extremely selfish, and at the same time, really just unnecessary. I’m not really proud of that,” Gomez was quoted as saying to TODAY.

Why Women Are More Affected

While an estimated more than 10 million individuals globally suffer from these disease, women face a fourfold higher risk than men.

The higher prevalence of autoimmune diseases in women is linked to:

• Genetic susceptibility
• Sex hormone influences
• Stress
• Environmental factors such as pollution

A 2020 study by Franklin University in the US found that many autoimmune disorders tend to affect women during periods of high stress, such as pregnancy or hormonal changes.

Research from a 2024 Stanford Medicine study found that inactivation of the X chromosome can trigger autoimmune responses.

Studies have noted the role of estrogen and an overactive immune system in increasing women's susceptibility to autoimmunity.

Environmental factors, including pollution, viruses, and mitochondrial damage, have also recently emerged as reasons driving autoimmune disease rates among women, as per a 2024 study published in the Journal of Clinical Investigation.

Exposure to PM2.5, nitrogen oxides, and ozone has been linked to increased risk of rheumatoid arthritis, particularly for genetically susceptible individuals. Living near busy roads, with constant traffic-related pollution, also correlates with a higher risk.

Why Early Detection Is Important

Early evaluation and timely diagnosis are essential. Appropriate treatment can significantly improve the quality of life and prevent long-term complications.

Persistent or unexplained symptoms should never be ignored, as early medical assessment can make a major difference in outcomes.

Telugu actress Samantha Ruth Prabhu, diagnosed with Myositis in her podcast, recalled subtle early symptoms:

“I remember specifically the year before I was diagnosed… I woke up with this condition. Early signs mimicked overexertion—fatigue during shoots, inability to hold props, and rapid exhaustion. A critical incident during an action sequence led to fainting and a head concussion, forcing me to pause work. I had to take a lot of steroid shots, which really messed up my skin.”

“Autoimmune diseases often speak softly through symptoms, but early listening can change the course of a life,” Dr. Jain said.

Similarly, Tennis star Venus Williams said that she was forced to withdraw from the 2011 U.S. Open after a seven-year struggle with Sjögren's syndrome, which she described as an “invisible” and “miserable” disease.

She suffered from debilitating fatigue, joint pain, numbness, and swelling.

While autoimmune diseases are considered chronic and cannot be cured, some individuals experience remission, where symptoms may lessen or disappear temporarily.

Key medications to treat the host of autoimmune disorders include immunosuppressants, steroids, Nonsteroidal Anti-inflammatory Drugs (NSAIDs), and replacement Therapy.

Beyond medications, adopting lifestyle modifications can also help. Studies have proven that dietary changes such as adopting anti-inflammatory, nutrient-dense diets (e.g., AIP diet) and avoiding processed foods can help autoimmune conditions.

Techniques like yoga and meditation can help manage Stress and boost immune responses. Regular, moderate exercise can also help reduce inflammation and maintain mobility.

Autoimmune Diseases: A Gateway For Comorbidities In Women

The persistent inflammation, immune system dysregulation, and organ stress caused by the disorders often also compound risks for

• Heart diseases like heart attacks, strokes, and atherosclerosis
• Endocrine issues like hypothyroidism, Type 1 diabetes,
• Kidney problems,
• Liver inflammation and scarring,
• Bone loss, including osteoporosis, joint deformities, and fractures
• Mobility, vision, and balance issues
• Recurrent infections
• Brain fog
• Memory problems
• Mental health conditions like depression and anxiety

“Early diagnosis, appropriate treatment, and societal education are key to improving disease outcomes,” Dr. Kumar noted.

“Despite the availability of many effective drugs, there is still an unmet need. We must strengthen gender-sensitive research focused on women’s immune health and build awareness at all levels to address this silent epidemic.”

Beyond being a medical challenge, multiple sclerosis (MS), which affects nearly three times as many women as men, raises emotional and physical concerns among women.

MS is a neurological condition that affects cognitive, emotional, motor, sensory, or visual functions. It is also a chronic autoimmune disease that is caused when a person’s immune system attacks their brain and spinal cord.

According to the UK-based MS International Federation, an estimated 2.8 million people live with MS worldwide, with prevalence increasing globally. However, women make up about 75 percent of MS patients globally.

However, women are disproportionately affected. The diagnosis gets more emotionally challenging for women as it often appears during early adulthood -- a key period for women building their careers, relationships, and families.

Estrogen, genetics and a lack of Vitamin D are major reasons for its increased prevalence in women.

Beyond the clinical symptoms, the anxiety, depression, mood changes, and stress, driven by uncertainty about disease progression, impact the daily life of women. Concerns about pregnancy, parenting, work, and long-term independence can further intensify the emotional burden.

“MS is significantly more prevalent in women, often striking during their most pivotal years. For many women, the diagnosis goes beyond a medical challenge; it becomes a profound emotional crossroads centered around family planning. They face daunting questions: Can I safely carry a pregnancy? Is breastfeeding possible? Will I have the physical stamina to care for a child? These are not merely clinical concerns; they are deeply personal anxieties about identity, motherhood, and the future,” Dr. Sudhir Kumar, Sr. Consultant Neurologist, Apollo Hospital, Jubilee Hills, Hyderabad, told HealthandMe.

“Multiple sclerosis is increasingly recognized as a disproportionate neurological burden among women. Globally, women are affected nearly two to three times more often than men, a pattern believed to arise from a complex interaction of immune system behavior, hormonal influences such as estrogen fluctuations, genetic susceptibility, and environmental triggers, including low Vitamin D levels and viral exposures,” added Dr. Manish Gupta, Director – Neurology, Max Super Specialty Hospital, Noida.

Symptoms of multiple sclerosis can be different from person to person. They can come and go or get worse over time. MS can affect any part of the central nervous system.

MS symptoms can worsen with heat or during other infections, such as urinary tract or respiratory infections.

Common symptoms can include:

• vision problems
• difficulty walking or keeping balance
• difficulty thinking clearly
• numbness or weakness, especially in the arms and legs
• muscle stiffness
• depression
• problems with sexual function or urination
• feeling very tired.

“No two patients experience MS in the same way. Symptoms depend on the location of demyelinating lesions in the brain or spinal cord, affecting vision, mobility, cognition, balance, or sensation. This biological variability makes early diagnosis and timely, high-efficacy intervention critical. The goal today is no longer just to manage relapses. It is to limit ongoing subclinical inflammation, prevent silent progression, and delay long-term disability,” Dr. Kumar said.

Why Treating Multiple Sclerosis Is Difficult

MS is an inflammatory condition that results from an autoimmune attack on myelin -- the fatty insulation that surrounds the nerves in the brain and spinal cord.

This disrupts the electrical impulses that are sent through the nerves to the rest of the body and results in scars (plaques or sclerosis).

“Multiple Sclerosis is one of the most complex neurological disorders we encounter in clinical practice, not because it is untreatable, but because it is unpredictable. MS is an immune-mediated disease characterized by inflammation and demyelination — damage to the protective myelin sheath that insulates nerve fibers in the brain and spinal cord. When this insulation is stripped away, nerve signals slow down or become distorted, producing a wide spectrum of symptoms, varying from fatigue, blurred vision, and dizziness to limb weakness, imbalance, or sensory disturbances,” Dr. Subhash Kaul, Consultant Neurologist at KIMS Hospital, Hyderabad, told HealthandMe.

Many of these are invisible, fluctuating, and easily dismissed, both by patients and sometimes even by primary care providers. It is not uncommon for individuals in the early stages of MS to be misdiagnosed.

“This delay in recognising the disease is deeply concerning, because MS strikes people in the prime of their lives — when they are building careers, raising families, and contributing economically. If left untreated, the disease does not remain static; inflammation accumulates silently, relapses leave residual deficits, and disability compounds over time. This is precisely why early and appropriate treatment matters,” said Dr. Kaul.

Yet, experts stated that early diagnosis remains crucial. Regular neurological evaluation for persistent numbness, vision disturbance, or unexplained fatigue allows timely therapy. Disease-modifying treatments, adequate sunlight exposure, physical activity, and stress management help slow progression and preserve long-term neurological function.

“Multiple Sclerosis is not a series of unfortunate episodes; it is a silent, relentless fire. From the moment of onset, MS acts as a chronic, immune-mediated assault on the central nervous system, often causing irreversible damage long before the first visible symptom appears. As one of the leading causes of non-traumatic disability in young adults, we must confront a sobering reality: even when a patient appears clinically stable, “smoldering” inflammation frequently continues beneath the surface, gradually eroding brain volume and neural pathways,” Dr. Kumar said.

“By intervening decisively at the outset, we can suppress smoldering inflammation, preserve long-term neurological function, and give women the confidence to pursue the lives and families they envision,” he added.

Chief Minister Siddaramaiah’s announcement during his presentation of the Karnataka State Budget 2026-27, proposing a ban on social media for children under 16 years of age, has sparked intense interest among parents and professionals alike. As the first state in India to attempt such a sweeping measure, the government has invited us to reflect upon this proposal.

We are in an age where technological advancements have blurred the lines between online and offline worlds, blending them seamlessly. While this is the norm in the world of adults, it has silently reshaped childhood with increased screentime.

Concerns about digital dependency, anxiety disorders in children, and reduced focus in academic and non-academic tasks have already made it to research papers and therapy rooms.

But Karnataka has now shifted the focus from debate to discussion and action. While a ban may reduce certain risks of social media exposure, children’s psychological needs like social connection, belonging, peer group and individual identity, besides guidance, must be nurtured if such protections are to be meaningful.

The Pediatric Perspective: A Medical Minefield

From a psychological perspective, the idea of an age-based social media ban is both promising and complex. On the brighter side, reducing screen usage can help address problems of poor sleep schedules, heightened anxiety, and trouble concentrating in studies or tasks. These problems have become increasingly common among not only adolescents, but very young children too.

However, age alone cannot be used as the single measure of readiness to implement this proposal. Two children of the same age may differ vastly in maturity levels, coping skills, and the ability to use technology responsibly.

The deeper issue is not simply “how much time” children spend online, but “what they do there”. Creative exploration, learning, and connection can be enriching, while endless scrolling reinforces dependency and stress.

A ban can reduce such harmful patterns, but in order to have real impact, such a move should be paired with support for children’s psychological needs to help them combat loneliness, handle peer pressure, and guiding their search for identity. Addressing these issues along with the ban can make the protection well intended, more meaningful and long-lasting.

The Silent Crisis: Nocturnal Anxiety And Doom-scrolling

Late-night scrolling (doom scrolling) is more than just a disruption of sleep. It is a psychological trigger for worry and overthinking. In the quiet of the night, children are left alone with a flood of unfiltered information, which can heighten anxiety, and unwanted exposure to inappropriate content.

An effective way to combat the dangers of unsupervised social media access could be “digital sundowning” i.e. setting clear screen time guidelines for children. Families can create screen-free zones, especially in bedrooms, bathrooms, and at dining tables, or create “phone parking zones” – a specific place in the house to keep all phones so no one is carrying them around all the time. This can encourage children towards healthier routines.

Unlike government-imposed bans, household practices can set healthy and firm boundaries, reinforce self-regulation and reduce the anxiety that comes from constant connectivity and information overload.

Symptoms In The Clinic: Beyond The Screen

In therapy rooms and schools, counsellors are addressing more and more concerns about children and adolescents spending excessive time with their screens. Some of the common ones are highlighted here:

• Social Isolation in Hyper Connectivity: Children may appear socially active online but withdraw from face-to-face interactions, leaving them paradoxically isolated.

• Body Image Concerns: Exposure to curated images on social media can fuel anxiety about appearance among growing children, who are already socially awkward during adolescence. This goes beyond normal teenage insecurity and can spiral into unhealthy self-image or self-criticism.

• Academic Fatigue: Digital content trains the brain to expect constant novelty and quick changes within a short time span of seconds or minutes, which makes textbooks and traditional classroom driven problem-solving feel slow and tiring. This leads to academic fatigue, where children struggle to sustain focus for deeper learning.

• Fear of Missing Out (FOMO): Constant checking of devices reflects a deep-seated need for validation and belonging. FOMO keeps children’s nervous systems on a constant loop of high alert, thus undermining emotional stability.

What Comes Next: The Prioritization Framework

For this ban to have a lasting impact, it needs to draw on psychological principles. Restrictions work best when paired with meaningful alternatives, as children are known to engage positively when they feel supported rather than restricted or scolded. A framework needs to be set up where learning and guidance is prioritized and alternatives offered are strengthened. Some pointers:

Digital Literacy in Schools: Children should be taught not only to limit screen time but also to understand how online platforms work. Lessons on algorithms, advertising, and curated content help them understand and evaluate what they see, so they become more resilient to digital influence.

Parental Guidance Programs: As with other trained behaviors, parents play a central role in shaping healthy digital habits too. Guidance programs can provide resources and strategies for families to showcase balanced device use. When adults demonstrate mindful online usage and behavior, children are likely to follow.

Physical and Social Alternatives: If digital spaces are restricted, offline opportunities must be strengthened. Sports, arts, and community activities help children gain a sense of belonging and enjoyment beyond screens, thus building confidence and social skills in real life.

Collaboration with Tech Companies: Lasting change requires cooperation of technology providers and social media platforms. Stricter age verification systems and design changes at the source are needed, rather than placing usage responsibility on children. By remodeling platforms, risk of unsupervised penetration of digital content can be mitigated so children may still be allowed safe, and age appropriate engagement on social media.

As Karnataka moves into this new territory, one thing is certain – the intention is noble. However, the execution of such a ban will require a fine balance of protection and empowerment, as it attempts to re-imagine childhood experiences in an age where the “virtual” and the “real” are meshed together. Whether this becomes a guiding model for the rest of the country, will depend entirely on how thoughtfully it is carried out.

Karnataka’s proposed ban is a bold first step, but its true impact will depend on how parents, teachers, and policymakers align on this, because healthy childhoods thrive not on restrictions, but through resilience, support, guidance, and strong offline connections that nurture growth and belonging.